Are you a Yes Person?

Hey friends! Thanks for all the congrats from yesterday’s post! Your encouragement means the world 🙂

The other night I headed over to a nearby city for a speaking engagement. I’d been asked to speak at a sleep apnea meeting about fitness, wellness, and low back pain. This was my first speaking engagement about fitness and health, so I was a little nervous:)


But it went pretty well! They were a very engaging audience and asked so many questions! I talked for about 45 minutes and then did some demonstrations. (I’ll be posting a recap over on Fitconomy soon!

Unfortunately, I got home right around 9…(and drove is a horrible thunderstorm on the way home!)…which meant I missed Glee. I missed GLEE!!! 😦 I’ll be watching it online tonight you bet your bootay. Has anyone found it online yet?


The “Yes” Dilemma

Never in my life has my calendar been so colorful. For example, this Saturday from 7-9, there are three different shades in that timeslot.



That’s because I’ve triple booked myself. And don’t even get me started on my Mondays…

It’s the “yes” dilemma. Making plans and putting yourself out there is great. But it’s just as great to tell people “no” once in a while.


I have a hard time telling people “no” – either because I feel that it’s my duty to do what they’ve asked or just because it plain sounds fun! But it can lead to stress. It can lead to emailing people at the last minute admitting that you won’t be able to attend __(fill in blank)___ because you have another obligation.

So from now on, I’m going to abide by the first come first serve MO. If I make plans for something, then it gets to have that entire timeslot. It does not get to share it with work, or a volleyball game, or dinner with a friend, or a training session, or class, orrrrr…

You get the point. So I’m a yes person!

I’m sure there are tons out there who can relate. Feel bad about turning down an invite even when you’ve clearly got something else going on? Besides being stressful, it’s really not fair to your family (and pets, for that matter!) I like to spend the evenings with my husband, but lately it’s been a rarity during the week. And Niko’s used to getting both a morning walk and an evening walk, but lately, a rushed morning speed walk as I try to make it out the door in time is all she gets.

OK I’m not here to complain, I promise;) I’m very thankful for all I’ve got going on. But my point is to encourage everyone (and myself) to use the word “no” every once in a while. You don’t have to take up every offer that comes your way!

Are you a yes person? Does it ever stress you out?


16 Responses

  1. I’m glad the speaking event went well- even if I’m quite knowledgeable on the subject, I start to get a little nervous in front of a crowd… ugh!

  2. …yes 🙂 I’m a yes person!

    I will say, I’ve gotten better about it in the past few years, but it’s still tough to say no sometimes!

    Great job on the speaking – sounds like it was an interesting topic 🙂

  3. I’m not really a ‘yes’ person, but my boyfriend is! He agrees to do things for people that he doesn’t want to do..and they just take advantage of his kindness. It drives me crazy. I’m glad your speech went well! I was nervous the first time I had to do a speech too, but I tried to fake my confidence until it was over 😉

  4. I’ve been working a particular mantra for the last few years…

    “I can do anything I want. I just can’t do everything I want…”

    If you like it, I make you a gift of it 🙂


  5. Yes! Yes! Yes!

    I am, and have overbooked myself on a number of occasions. Mentally I start trying to think how I can fit everything in, and then when it comes to the application everything goes horribly.

    I am still working on the art of saying, “Sorry, no.”

  6. Guilty! I’m totally a yes person. I consider myself a people pleaser, so when I say no I feel like I’m letting someone down. After I say yes- then I stress about fitting it all in!

    • @ Jen When faced with a wonderful oppurtunity that I know will overextend me , I’ve found that saying “Thank you for thinking of me, but I don’t have the time and energy that this ___________ deserves”.

      Most folks see that I’m honoring their thing more when I won’t commit to something that I can’t accomplish.


  7. Im so stressed out right now! So Im taking a mental health break and reading blogs 🙂 It helps!

  8. Sorry to hear about how hectic things are right now! I have definitely triple booked myself before, and I learned that saying no after I have already said yes because of over booking is worse than saying no in the first place. Woops!

    It took me awhile to learn to say no and I am not always the best at it, but I do try to say no more often so that I can take care of myself and be there for others.

  9. Yes!

    Actually, I can say I’ve gotten much better. For a long time, I lived to do what I thought everyone wanted me to do or what I SHOULD do. Now I need reminders, but I definitely don’t do as much as I used to.

  10. Thank you for this post! I am a complete ‘yes’ person and I drive myself crazy that way. It can take a lot of courage (for me, at least) to say ‘no,’ but I am trying to learn that it’s okay and to say it more often.

  11. I am a yes person for the most part, but when I get way too crazy with life and everything else I tend to lesson it a bit with social things and say no. It is hard though!

    Congrats on the speaking opportunity and being a nutritionist now! That is so amazing that you are following your dream!

  12. I was just discussing this with my friend Laura. I have a really hard time saying no to my friends when they want to hang out. It’s not so much that I feel like I can’t say no as it is I just don’t want to say no. I do know how to say know if it’s something I truly don’t want to do.

    I realized today this needs to stop though because I’m driving myself into the ground.

  13. I am totally a yes person, and because of it, I’ve gotten stuck with a few less-than-stellar responsibilities at my job. I also have a hard time saying no to telemarketers and random door-to-door salespeople. I don’t know why, but for some reason I feel bad telling them I’m not interested right away, so I let them go on their schpeal selling me something, and then I tell them no at the end…wasting everyone’s time in the process. I don’t know why I don’t just say “no thank you” right away!

  14. @runningaroundnormal

    I find that saying I don’t have the time an activty deserves is respectful. It saves all folks involved trouble down the line


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